This was a lovely essay. I have such a hard time and have really internalized that friendships that don’t last. I actually wrote about it here on substack.
Your perspective has really helped me though. Sometimes it really is just a change of proximity.
I’m fiercely loyal and would be someone’s forever friend through any distance, so it is very hard to relate when people see me as just a for now friend.
It's human nature to think that if a friendship doesn't last, we've done something wrong. Sometimes it's just simple circumstances. It doesn't take away from the beauty of the friendship.
I have always marveled at people like my SIL who still has a couple of her friends from high school.
For me, between going to a high school across town and then having to work full-time to put myself through college, a series of many moves across the country and demanding careers, I've had a lot of point-in-time friendships while actively working to cultivate more as I get older and will eventually have more time on my hands.
I loved your point that it's OK as each of these did matter even if they are not part of your life as time goes on.
Sorry to hear about Rosemarie, but the wake-up call is an important notice.
This was a lovely essay. I have such a hard time and have really internalized that friendships that don’t last. I actually wrote about it here on substack.
Your perspective has really helped me though. Sometimes it really is just a change of proximity.
I’m fiercely loyal and would be someone’s forever friend through any distance, so it is very hard to relate when people see me as just a for now friend.
Thank you for sharing this 💕
It's human nature to think that if a friendship doesn't last, we've done something wrong. Sometimes it's just simple circumstances. It doesn't take away from the beauty of the friendship.
Joanne, Happy Birthday!
I have always marveled at people like my SIL who still has a couple of her friends from high school.
For me, between going to a high school across town and then having to work full-time to put myself through college, a series of many moves across the country and demanding careers, I've had a lot of point-in-time friendships while actively working to cultivate more as I get older and will eventually have more time on my hands.
I loved your point that it's OK as each of these did matter even if they are not part of your life as time goes on.
Sorry to hear about Rosemarie, but the wake-up call is an important notice.
IMHO, we should appreciate the friendships we have while we have them, and be grateful for them even after the fact